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I am concerned about Travis
Aug. 24th, 2008 01:16 amI AM NOT WRONG FOR BEING CONCERNED.
Here's the advice I got from PROFESSIONAL counselors.
Looks like your friend is making some sudden, quick, and dramatic changes that are quite serious. Perhaps something has happened to him since college that has triggered this odd behavior. It seems like he is asking for someone's help by acting out this way. Perhaps it's best to sit down and have a serious talk about what is going on with all the changes. Sounds like he really wants someone there to find out what's wrong and support him in whatever he is going through. There are many hotlines and services that he can call to get help too, should he need it and depending on the issue that he is dealing with.
I am CONCERNED for you, Travis. Nothing More.
..and about shane.
I will say, though, that you shouldn't let him interfere with your own life and your own education. You do have to worry about yourself, too. If he is threatening suicide, then it's time to tell his parents (does he get along okay with them?) or the school's counselor. That's something which requires more help and support than you can provide him with. That's not to say that friends can't be helpful or supportive in those times; they can, but he's going to need some professional help in dealing with these suicidial thoughts.
However, you are right in seeing that his behavior might start affecting you if you continue to hang around him. If you should feel that he is not a good influence on you, remove yourself from the situation. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing. If you feel like the relationship can only be destructive to you, then you are right in trying to cut off contact.
If I REALLY AM such a horrible person, you guys WOULDN'T have hung around me for so long -_-.
In all reality, everything I do involving you guys is because I am concerned for you. If you wouldnt have changed, I wouldnt have been concerend.
Here's the advice I got from PROFESSIONAL counselors.
Looks like your friend is making some sudden, quick, and dramatic changes that are quite serious. Perhaps something has happened to him since college that has triggered this odd behavior. It seems like he is asking for someone's help by acting out this way. Perhaps it's best to sit down and have a serious talk about what is going on with all the changes. Sounds like he really wants someone there to find out what's wrong and support him in whatever he is going through. There are many hotlines and services that he can call to get help too, should he need it and depending on the issue that he is dealing with.
I am CONCERNED for you, Travis. Nothing More.
..and about shane.
I will say, though, that you shouldn't let him interfere with your own life and your own education. You do have to worry about yourself, too. If he is threatening suicide, then it's time to tell his parents (does he get along okay with them?) or the school's counselor. That's something which requires more help and support than you can provide him with. That's not to say that friends can't be helpful or supportive in those times; they can, but he's going to need some professional help in dealing with these suicidial thoughts.
However, you are right in seeing that his behavior might start affecting you if you continue to hang around him. If you should feel that he is not a good influence on you, remove yourself from the situation. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing. If you feel like the relationship can only be destructive to you, then you are right in trying to cut off contact.
If I REALLY AM such a horrible person, you guys WOULDN'T have hung around me for so long -_-.
In all reality, everything I do involving you guys is because I am concerned for you. If you wouldnt have changed, I wouldnt have been concerend.
