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Oct. 11th, 2013 11:30 pmMy Business Questions..
Just in case you were interested~
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I have no self-disclosure at all at first. I'm extremely afraid of people, and one thing that I've noticed is that people judge eachother a LOT. If their work is not poor, then the things they talk about. One of my newer co-workers talks about "living in the ghetto of the big city with his homies" a lot, and people make fun of him ...a LOT for that sort of thing. They are brutally mean about it. They know nothing about me, and I do good work. They literally have nothing bad to say about me. One of my quirks is, I can't have people upset with me, or it eats at me and consumes me till the problem is fixed.
Once I know a person and I am confident they aren't judgmental and mean, I will do the occasional joke with them, and as I learn what things they like and dislike, I can censor myself to not say the things they dislike, and talk about stuff they DO like. needless to say, making friends is extremely hard for me.
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1. Do you agree that speaking out at work is generally beneficial to you and your employer? Explain your answer.
In a perfect world, I believe it would be beneficial to everyone. From my experience, when I've spoken out about a problem, I've always been retaliated against, either by being forced OUT of the team, being forced to do ALL the work of the team, or have management alienate me from things such as christmas party planning... or they make fun of me...
For example, when I spoke out about a sickness, I was having that was preventing me from doing a certain non-mandatory position... They didn't care, they told me to suck it up. I got a note from my doctor saying that it was literally a medical problem, and they came up to me in the middle of one of my shifts and said to me, sarcastically... "I'm really glad you don't have to go through that anymore". Why would he say anything to me at all!?? it's a medical issue! I don't want to talk about it, especially since I told them I was having an issue before I even had to go to the doctor to proove it...
2. Why are many people reluctant to give negative feedback to another person? What are some of the reasons some people are afraid to speak out?
Why other people are? I have no idea, I'm not other people! For me, I'm afraid of that retaliation they are undoubtedly going to make my life harder with. I've found out in my case anyway, the best thing is to deal with most problems by doing workarounds, rather than risk having my position relationship damaged. Certain people that did not like to work, didn't like that I DID work, and when I asked them to cover my breaks, they wouldn't and then lie to the management about why my spot was not covered. "Oh, she wasn't on her break, she never told me anything." Or something like that.
I really wish that the world was perfect and people could openly talk and accept constructive critisism about their work habits... but in my experience, it doesn't work very well at all. I'm kind of the type of person that gets walked all over.
3. If a coworker openly criticizes your work in a meeting and says things that are not true, what should your immediate response be? Should you make contact with this person after the meeting and try to resolve the problems? Explain your answer.
I would first, ask them if there was perhaps a misunderstanding, because that does happen! I would provide examples and evidence that they were wrong, even going to check security cameras if necessary. Of course, I would talk to the person after the meeting and try to resolve the problems. I don't like anyone to be sad or upset, and I'd love to help them feel happy!
Just in case you were interested~
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I have no self-disclosure at all at first. I'm extremely afraid of people, and one thing that I've noticed is that people judge eachother a LOT. If their work is not poor, then the things they talk about. One of my newer co-workers talks about "living in the ghetto of the big city with his homies" a lot, and people make fun of him ...a LOT for that sort of thing. They are brutally mean about it. They know nothing about me, and I do good work. They literally have nothing bad to say about me. One of my quirks is, I can't have people upset with me, or it eats at me and consumes me till the problem is fixed.
Once I know a person and I am confident they aren't judgmental and mean, I will do the occasional joke with them, and as I learn what things they like and dislike, I can censor myself to not say the things they dislike, and talk about stuff they DO like. needless to say, making friends is extremely hard for me.
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1. Do you agree that speaking out at work is generally beneficial to you and your employer? Explain your answer.
In a perfect world, I believe it would be beneficial to everyone. From my experience, when I've spoken out about a problem, I've always been retaliated against, either by being forced OUT of the team, being forced to do ALL the work of the team, or have management alienate me from things such as christmas party planning... or they make fun of me...
For example, when I spoke out about a sickness, I was having that was preventing me from doing a certain non-mandatory position... They didn't care, they told me to suck it up. I got a note from my doctor saying that it was literally a medical problem, and they came up to me in the middle of one of my shifts and said to me, sarcastically... "I'm really glad you don't have to go through that anymore". Why would he say anything to me at all!?? it's a medical issue! I don't want to talk about it, especially since I told them I was having an issue before I even had to go to the doctor to proove it...
2. Why are many people reluctant to give negative feedback to another person? What are some of the reasons some people are afraid to speak out?
Why other people are? I have no idea, I'm not other people! For me, I'm afraid of that retaliation they are undoubtedly going to make my life harder with. I've found out in my case anyway, the best thing is to deal with most problems by doing workarounds, rather than risk having my position relationship damaged. Certain people that did not like to work, didn't like that I DID work, and when I asked them to cover my breaks, they wouldn't and then lie to the management about why my spot was not covered. "Oh, she wasn't on her break, she never told me anything." Or something like that.
I really wish that the world was perfect and people could openly talk and accept constructive critisism about their work habits... but in my experience, it doesn't work very well at all. I'm kind of the type of person that gets walked all over.
3. If a coworker openly criticizes your work in a meeting and says things that are not true, what should your immediate response be? Should you make contact with this person after the meeting and try to resolve the problems? Explain your answer.
I would first, ask them if there was perhaps a misunderstanding, because that does happen! I would provide examples and evidence that they were wrong, even going to check security cameras if necessary. Of course, I would talk to the person after the meeting and try to resolve the problems. I don't like anyone to be sad or upset, and I'd love to help them feel happy!
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