It appears that I am not only a whiney ass bitch who doesn't deserve to live. But I'm also a crazy stereotypical (but in somewhat good reason) superficial whiney ass bitch. Why you may ask?
I had a very tact-full conversation with
This Guy. And it was that guy ALONE in this particular conversation which came to make me realize this.
You know what they say...if it sounds like a duck, smells like a duck, and looks like a duck, it's probably...a duck. If you don't want to look like a slob, then don't dress like one. In today's fast-paced world, it's getting harder and harder to stop and get to know a person face-to-face over a longer period of time; it's moved on to corporate networking, and social skills are, unfortunately, becoming more and more obsolete. Therefore, in the limited amount of time you have to make an impression, it should be how you want someone to remember you. I don't mean walk around in an expensive suit all day, but don't give people a REASON to think of you negatively. Even if you're the most kind-hearted human being in the world, if you're walking around on the streets dressed like a bum, passerby's will assume that you are, indeed, a bum. A first impression DOES count, and a second impression is hard to make, so like our teachers taught us for competition, the first thing a judge (or in the real world, a potential employer) sees is how you're dressed. Granted, a poorly-dressed person may have the qualifications to accept that position, but it's up to the discretion of the interviewer to allow it to continue, so mind the way you look.The way you dress tells others about your personality--and your morals
As a single person, do you make careful choices about the way you dress?
Often we men are guilty of not paying much attention to fashion, but our clothing reveals a great deal about our personalities too.
Some single guys apparently aren't acquainted with that modern invention, the clothes hanger.
As Christians, both men and women can dress modestly and still be in style. The way you dress governs not only how you look, but also how much you spend on clothes.
What signal are you sending?
No doubt about it, ladies, your choice in clothes can attract men. The problem, though, is you'll probably attract the wrong kind of men if you dress a certain way.
When we wear clothes that are obviously expensive, it promotes an image of success and wealth. But if you can't afford those clothes and have to charge them, you're putting the emphasis in the wrong place.
If you're looking for a sincere Christian man, the way you dress projects an image of modesty, poise, and respect for God that will be instantly recognizable to him. On the other hand, if you wear revealing clothes just because that's the style, you're not projecting the true you.
This person I would assume would to be... somewhat of a
slut. Why? Because shes running around in her underwear.. no bra on... she has the high-top ugly-ass hair.. a very strange expression on her face.. in which it appears her underwear/thong could be down in the back and her finger could for some reason potentially be inserted into her anal cavity. But what is a slut anyway?
Slut or slattern is a pejorative term for a person who is deemed sexually promiscuous. Although I have no concrete proof that this girl is a slut, because of her underwear-picture-takingness and whatever shes doing behind her back,, would make her to have a very high chance of someone enjoying sex with random people than say... The person on the right.. Because as far as this picture shows.. she looks innocent enough. She is not exposed as far as we can see. If the person on the left were to have clothes on that werent so revealing, and get rid of that RIDICULOUS hairstyle, then I would probably no longer make the assumption that she like to get naked. As the first step to getting naked is taking your pants off.
This person most people would assume is "emo/punk/goth". but what is emo anyway? Wikipedia doesn't have a page about it, so I unfortunatly have to resort to urbandictionary. Unfortunately nothing there is reliable and is mostly the stupid side of stereotypes. So
what could emo be? (Not counting the music here)
The Fake Emo(Known as the "Wannabee Emo"): These kids listen to Teenagers over and over and wear black, dye their hair black and sometimes (NOT ALL THE TIME, DONT STEROTYPE DAMMIT) cut themselves so that they seem emo. These kids are not emo. They are annoying and make a bad name for the "true" emo.
The Real Emo: This is someone who probably has some sort of tragedy happen, such as parents being alcoholics or being depressed because of a mental condition. These kids should not be made fun of because many of them are going through extremely hard times. But, sadly, there are people who don't even bother to look and see that these people may really be in trouble! Heck, its very hard to find a real emo because most of them are in the closet about their emoness.
The Real, Hardcore Emo: These are the worst. These are the emos that have been real for close to a month and they begin to nosedive. They cut deeper and they become increasingly mean to freinds at school or to people in the workplace. They may also start burning or pinching or some other form of Self-Injury. These kids should NEVER be made fun of. They are, many times, mentally unstable and many will attempt or have many thoughts about killing themselves. If you know about someone that is cutting or talking of suicide, they are becoming a hardcore emo, and they have a slight chance of living.
Because America sucks, the real definition of emo.. (being emotional or whatever) does not hold true. The "Fake emo" is more synonymous with just "emo". Personally.. I would not think the person on the left cuts their wrists just because their hair is swooped and they are wearing a tight shirt and taking picture of themself in a mirror. I would also not assume that this person experiences heavy mood swings/whatever. I would assume... "Oh this person.. likes to dress in black and weird like that.. Would I want to get to know them? Maybe. If they started going on about cutting themselves or whatever.. Then I would say.. No way. Why dont I have a negative stereotype toward these people but do toward people who i lable as "sluts"? I dont know? Maybe my stereotypicalness has to do with the people at my school. Noone at my school dressed like that.. until I was in 12th grade, some of the 9th graders did. They didn't talk about slitting themselves or whatver.. they did talk about music a lot.. and stuff. The people i label as "sluts" would always talk about sex and penises and making fun of.. Um. well. Me.. themselves being stereotypical tword things /I/ liked. They hated people who like Pokemon. Do they have any logical reason to hate me because I like pokemon? Nooo. Pokemon is in no way any sort of threat to myself, the people around me, or my well-being. I do have a reason to hate them for talking about sex and stuff. because there is a high possibility that they could get STDs, pregnant, etc. While there is ZERO possibility for pokemon to be damaging.
What about Punk? Punk is saying and doing what you want, when you want, how you want. Punk is dressing however you want to dress, looking however you want to look, and listening to whatever music you want to listen to, not because it's popular or un-popular, but because it's what you want. Punk is being selfish, greedy and conceited and admitting it with pride.
Im not exactly sure what the negative stereotype is with them. They do whatever they want. I suppose you could assume that at home I, personally, and Punk. Because i do whatever i want, how i want.. and i dont care what my dad or cory say. Just because you have a mohawk doesn't make you punk, neccisarily, it makes you strange, lol. Actually I think that there's 3 main categories I put people into.. Which for lack of better word, has another meaning.. There would be... "Strange, Normal, Slut" based upon appearance.
What about homosexuality? As I have learned from Shane, people who are gay DEFINITELY arent neccisarily all feminine with huge lisps and whatever. However TV and the media would definitely make it seem that way. Before I knew shane was gay, did I hate gay people? Um.. No. Just because they like somoene of the same sex, why would that neccisarily have anything to do with self harm at all? Somoene may argue "But gay men are more likely to have AIDS!" I think this is a false statement. People who REALLY are sluts are more likely to have AIDS.
What about a gamer? I dont think that gamers have any outward signs that they are neccisarily a gamer.. unless they wear a shirt that says gamer or whatever, lol. I guess in some ways this is a good thing. There was people from school who I found out was a gamer that I honestly never would have guessed was. Like Dominic from the grade below me. He always talked about sex and boobs and drugs with Mike on the bus.. Which I guess shows you that gamer is the stereotype that defys all odds.. Anyone can be a gamer regardless of how they look! How i view the gamer stereotype is how in reality I should view all the rest of stereotypes, but... The rest of the stereotypes dont seem to defy the odds -.-...
What about blacks? This is a stereotype that really pisses me off. This is a stereotype based upon HOW SOMEONE WAS BORN. Someone has ZERO control over whether or not they are black! Sure a lot of them are crazy rappers that "dont give a shit". But look at the movie "The Nutty Professor" The professor was a geek/nerd. He liked SCIENCE. he didn't like swearing or rapping or being all ghetto.
What about whites? According to wikipedia, Especially in European countries, Americans are stereotyped as brash, ignorant, self-important, unintelligent, decadent, prudish on sexual matters and obese. Well... I would agree that most americans ARE brash, ignorant, self-important, and unintelligent. You cant make a stereotype about being "obsese" what about in Japan.. Sumo wrestlers? They are obsese.. and noone goes around stereotyping them saying "Japan is obsese!" or "Japan is not obese!" its like... Some are obsese, and others arent. Its doesn't lean one way or another. The TEENAGERS are definitely not prudish on sexual matters. They are anything but. They are generally OBSESSED. With boobs and sex and crap. The adults.. the education system, I would say is very prudish. In english class we watched romeo + Juliet. In once scene, you can see Juliet's boob and my teacher for every class held a book up in front of the screen.. Nick said that at his school they wouldnt have censored it. So.. Ummm.. yeah i'd say that the teaching portion of Americans is prude regarding sexual matters.
..Actually now that I thought of this incident regarding school... Most of the things I know and I've learned. The stereotypes I am indifferent to / Against have all been the teachings of the education system... The teachers want people to abide by the dress code. They dont want you to wear low shirts and high skirts.. they dont want you to have sex, they teach abstinance.. They teach dont do drugs.... They teach dont discriminate via color.. Did the teachers ever tell you "Dont be emo! Dont be goth! Dont be homosexual!"? No they didn't. Maybe the majority of my reasoning is due to my education. Perhaps because of the TEACHERS is why I have as biased view as I do.. I followed everything they said in school religiously. Like hardcore martyr religiously. If we didn't do it in school, I probably dont do it at home.
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Well I think I have sorted out my madness a little bit.. which makes me feel a little bit better.
So now you, as the person who looks down upon me are now probably asking "But Cait! How do you expect to cure yourself from all this craaaaazyness?"
I have no idea. And i really wish I still saw Marianne, maybe she'd have some suggestions... (but probably not)
So what are my real plans?
Well. Perhaps find someone who is also a crazy stereotypical superficial (but in somewhat good reason) whiney ass bitch in the same exact way I am.. (lololol naught possible) and cling to them for dear life. Perhaps to keep my sanity. (what sanity?)
Or find someone who accepts me that I am a crazy stereotypical superficial (but in somewhat good reason) whiney ass bitch... (CSSWAB, to hell with typing this so many times ><) and can learn to nod their head and smile when I go off on some CSSWAB-rant.. because it's (in my eyes) all for the best.. and KNOW i mean it only for the best.. and not go SSJ on me because im crazy like that ><
...Or become hermity.. Perhaps if I cant hold a job, because homeless.. and fill my life with the beautiful cats I will surround myself with.
...Or hope and pray to WHITEFACE BESIDE ME that someone invents a personality alter-er.. thing.. So I can get rid of all this stupid shit the way I think....
Or option X... Do the The Real, Hardcore Emo thing... and just cease to exist. Of course I would never do this, as I am not a real, hardcore emo person. I do not believe in self harm.. and all that jazz. But I sometimes think it was better for the people around me if I just didn't exist anymore. Like from day one, lol. To the people im around.. to the people I express my views to... TO the people I get close to.. I seem to cause mass panic. Hurt feelings, deep misunderstandings.. general anger twords me.. While on the pros side not much. I dont hardly ever get anymore "you make me happy" "I Like being around you" "I think you're awesome" When I do get this, its mostly from the new people i meet.. and not from the older ones.
Perhaps this is some of what Shane was trying to get across to me in those hurtfull facebook comments. I think it would have been better if he Um.. Used better TACT in trying to get the post across rather than say "you crazy ungratefull bitch". you know.. try to help me realize my errors and not just.. call me a crazy ungratefull bitch. I already know im a crazy ungratefull bitch, what else is new?
...But it still doesn't doesn't make me feel any more positive twords him.. because of all the hypocritical things he has done... which is NOT just something thats all in my head. I'm stopping here though, because... I really dont feel like getting people more pissed at me than they already are XD
To put it short if you dont wanna read all this "TL;DR" post.. I suck, I know it, Oh well.
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